What is it like to go for a Tinder-Spree?

Hey everyone! Seems like I’ve only gotten time to write a post every 6 months! I hope it has been a happening 2018 for everyone so far. Well, mine is..as dramatic as ever. I took a break from social dancing for 2 months sometime end of last year to give my legs the rest it deserves after all the injuries, and channelled my focus back to strengthening myself in the gym. Amidst of all these work stress and free time from dancing partly, I’ve never thought I’m gonna say this, I seek for emotional balance on…Tinder.

Before you have that thought, nope.. not in that way! That’s not how Honey rolls. When you tell someone you are on Tinder, people often think that “she/he must be up for hook up”, and “all the guys and girls there are not looking for anything serious”. Well, I can honestly tell you that there’re flies, but there’re also decent guys. I have friends who met on Tinder and they are planning to get married; a boss who just got married to his Tinder match. I met assholes on real life too, so it doesn’t take Tinder to meet bad guys.

I’m not a huge fan of the app nor believe in swiping stacks of digital pictures or catalogues to find that special someone. I occasionally swipe just for fun and there are a funny mix of decent, horny and crazy guys that sent me texts from Tinder and often times, having to entertain them overwhelmed me. I downloaded and deleted the app countless times. So, one fine weekend while I was alone at home, I downloaded Tinder again and went on swiping out of boredom. Within 5 minutes I deleted the app, cause’ I find it ridiculous, and downloaded it back 5 minutes after. I think I’m ridiculous! 🙂

29 years of my life, I’ve never thought I’ll actually do dates. Dating and relationships are the one aspect of myself that does not seem to go well for me. I wasn’t the kind of girl every boys will be interested in back in high school. This is the first time I actually put myself out there, out from my comfort zone, especially meeting people that I artificially swiped from a dating app.

The thing about Tinder is that most people abused the initial idea of the app which is designed for users to meet like-minded people, get to know each other and date. Instead they swiped faces to find men or chicks to spend a night with. Well, no judgement whatsoever. Everyone is there with different goals and reasons. If you decided to try Tinder, have no expectations. For us ladies, be smart, be vigilant and be safe. Don’t do anything that you are not comfortable with and go beyond your own principle.

I gave it a go because I thought if people like me (well, I’m nice..not lying!) are in the app, I’m sure I could find decent ones as well. True enough, 80% of my dates are decent and nice. Some, I kept in touch with as friends or online buddies. I do however met liars, guys who are only interested in hook ups, bad conversationalist, who convinced themselves that they don’t actually want just sex and care nothing else about you except for your sex life, who I clicked with but living in a different country, who I actually like but in a different page and who said trashy things at you because you don’t want to have sex with them. All kinds of men.

Finally, after 4 months of dates, I burned out. Going out for dates is total mental work in a loop for me. You repeatedly go out to get to know each other again and again. Asking the same question again and again. I never really did understand why people claim that we should go for lots of dates while you are young and I thought it was not necessary. Well, I gotta say, I’m quite wrong. You do not have to go for a lot of dates, but you have nothing to lose either if you get a chance to go for dates. Plus point, the perks of being a girl, you get your meals paid for if he is a gentleman. #JustSaying 🙂 I of course offered to pay for my own meal or treat the guy back if there’re more dates or hangouts.

Fact is, I positively learned a lot from these dates. I learned how to hold a conversation with a total stranger, spot a F***-Boy, learn what kind of guy I actually want to be with, and most importantly, learned about myself after sufficient amount of encounters with men.

Speaking from my own experience, ladies, NEVER let a guy disrespect, trash talk you, treat you like a sex tool and makes you feel bad about yourself for not wanting to have sex with them. I actually got myself questioning if there’s something wrong with me, but then I realised that NOTHING IS WRONG WITH ME. In fact I have and know my self-worth; what I deserve. Just because the society makes sleeping around a NORM and I don’t fit in, that doesn’t make me WEIRD. Again, no judgement and there are no black and white to this. If you are comfortable with the other person, get the respect you deserves and want to have some fun, by all means..but just be safe.

For 3 months now I stopped Tinder-ing. Life’s been much focused on my own personal growth, cause that’s what all of us knows best and have in control; our own life.  Mean time, let’s just hope that one day, I’ll meet that special someone who finds me his special someone too.


The Crazy 6.

I had been missing for almost 6 months since my last post in March. A few friends asked about my blog recently and suggested that I should get back to writing, so here I am. I’m back! Just like that 6 months had passed, and the passed 6 months had been crazy; a blend of joy, pain and stress.

A hyperactive bunny and monkey (quoted from my dad) like me couldn’t stay put unless you tie me to a chair. So it was dreadful for me to put a stop temporarily in all my activities – dragon boat and dancing, except for my workout which I need, after I had a partially torn ligament, torn muscles and sprained ankle while doing a light jog in dragon boat’s land drill (boot camp style workout) back in March. That’s when the blogging stopped a little as well. It took about 3 – 4 months before I could resume it all, but until then, life goes on.

Anyway, since I couldn’t do physical activities much at the time, I spent a little time playing around with my Sony A6000 instead, invested in a Prime lens and played around with Adobe Lightroom. Took a couple of shots for my sister’s pre-wedding among other random shots. You can view the album here. On top of that, my existing photography Instagram account has been reactivated, so feel free to check it out, LIKE it and leave some comments! 🙂

When the tide was calm, a new wave hit at work. My current company offered a new position to me sometime back in May, and I decided to take up the new challenge. I’m a Product Manager now and no longer coding as of this moment. It’s a 360 degrees change inside out; the job description, knowledge and my brain had to adjust as well. Hence, work stress is inevitable, but I’m taking it all in with a positive attitude and perform the very best I can.

Months later, I resumed my dragon boat trainings. Felt really good to be back training with the team and even signed up for dragon boat races in Sarawak and Penang. Unfortunately,  over time the left part of my body started showing signs of unusual muscle strains and I decided to get it checked. Turned out I literally needed to be adjusted. Heavy heartedly, I took my chiropractor’s advise and stopped paddling with the team. Spent a few days considering it and it was a tough decision to call it quit but it was a right sensible one, for a better health in the long run. That saying, I am not sure whether or not I’ll be back paddling with the team, but for now definitely no paddling nor racing.

So now that I’ve stopped dragon boating, I resumed my dancing activities; salsa intermediate class and almost-weekly social dancing. I’ve forgotten how much I miss it and with the time spent back dancing for hours in socials, I actually improved myself now that I channelled my focus back to dancing. Of course, I made even more new friends from class and that unexpectedly opened up another window of adventure.

One of my new dance mates introduced me to this fitness class app called Wanderclass. Me, being a fitness junkie tried several new activities via their Cross & Flow program – Mix of HIIT & Animal Flow workout – I’m not lying when I say SpiderMan has a tough job, PoundFit – workout inspired by drumming and yes there’s drum sticks involved, no no..not chicken drumstick! and the least expected activity I thought I’d try – AcroYoga. It would be dreadful for an overly hyperactive person like me to go with slow and calm activity like Yoga, but…I gotta say that I surprisingly found AcroYoga to be interesting… and fun…and scary…and pretty cool. There’s a lot of “and”s but yeah, I kinda like it. 🙂 I’d totally recommend anyone who is into fitness to try Cross & Flow by Wanderclass and on top of that, I made myself a few friends that obviously shares the same passion had some healthy meal with them as well! 🙂 Eat..eat…and eat!! Who doesn’t like to eat? Ok – I’m feeling hungry now.


Cross & Flow : PoundFit & AcroYoga with Wanderclass


Healthy meal by TheHealthyFoodPeople & cold pressed juice from Black & White Fitness Studio

Come September, my 2017 adventure continues with signing myself up for International Zouk Day 2017 event again this year but this time, just the beginner’s routine. Here’s a sneak preview of how the flash mob’s gonna look like this coming October 7th @ Sunway Velocity.

That very same week of the Zouk routine’s recording, I was swinging my hip away during Salsalah 2017 at The Royale Bintang @ The Curve about 2 weeks ago. I came up with one flirtatious line and earned myself the Bond Girl title along with another Russian lady in one of the social nights. Jaxen, the emcee of the night asked “Where are you from?” and I said “Call me tonight, then maybe I’ll tell you”. With that I won myself a full Latin festival tickets in Vietnam next year. Not too bad ey? 🙂

Unfortunately, all the musical fun came to a disappointing pause when I snapped my ankle’s Achilles tendon towards the end of the night. I self-diagnosed and got it confirmed 2 days later by my chiropractor. I think I could pass as my own chiropractor now. Yes…again! 6 months later, same ankle, new injury and that means no walking on treadmill or swimming for now, no working on my calves and ankle and worse, dancing for at least 3 months. FML!

Oh well, to think about it, I’ve tried many new things the past couple of months, made a lot of new friends along the way and I had my fair share of dancing for what…5 hours that night? Crazy I know! Lesson though, don’t ever dance for hours with a shoe that does not have a proper support and fit your feet.


Photo credit : Jeff Lee Photography

Right now, I’m grateful I can still walk as it’s only a minor tear and could still continue to work on my upper body in the gym or at home. I guess I could use some rest after all my mini adventures in the past months, take a break before travelling to Chiang Mai with my colleague & Sarawak with the KL Barbarians this coming November. Hopefully, fingers crossed – my legs are strong enough to resume a full body workout and start dancing a little bit sometime in December.

Until then, looking forward to more unexpected adventures!

What’s next? Love?

Few days ago, I’ve gotten myself a partially torn ligament, torn muscles and sprained ankle while doing a light jog in dragon boat land drill (boot camp style workout). Depending on my recovery rate, I have to give myself a good 6-8 weeks break. I have no choice but to put all my adrenaline rush activities on hold; dancing, gym and dragon boat trainings as I couldn’t walk without crutches now. It’s almost like the universe is telling me to slow down and stop.

Boredom and dreadfulness are definitely going to sink in in the coming days, but I’ll figure something out and make the best out of my recuperating days until I literally get back up on my feet! For a start, here I am writing, playing with my camera, making good use of my time figuring out alternative workouts that I can do, how I’m going to spend my following weeks – how do I commute to work especially amongst other things that I’ve been wanting to do and can do.

What pissed me off though, I went for land drill the other day, all full of excitement to pick up my very own paddle and floating device with my name embedded on it, looking forward so so so much to use it for the first time on lake training yesterday but all those excitement disappeared the minute I heard that loud crack from my ankle. When my team mates told me that they heard it too, I knew it then I must have torn something.

Furthermore, I’ve got trips planned and they are a month plus away. I wanted to try scuba diving in Tioman Island, visit Kundasang in Sabah, try their salsa scene and river rafting as well. On top of that, there’s also a dragon boat race (my first race) coming up at Langkawi in July, and that requires more trainings prior before that. Considering now that I can’t go full speed ahead, abruptly, ALL of that are temporarily crushed now. Roll eyes. 


Despite all that, this is when I’m being reminded that I’m being surrounded by loving and caring souls. I’d like to express my gratitude to my family & friends for the calls, messages and for being there. Really appreciate all of it. I’m truly happy and blessed to have all of you! Much love for you guys! xoxo

So, universe. Now that you cancelled all my activities and plans, I have the time to sit and listen. What are you trying to tell me? And you suck as a personal assistant by the way. What’s next?

I’m pretty happy with my career and job as of this point. One of these days though, I need to spend some time to dig in deeper about my career path.

Life after work; no doubt has been really happening. Besides dancing, and working out in the gym, I’ve gotten myself into dragon boating for almost 2 months now and will be graduating from the beginner’s course end of this month! Paddling with the KL Barbarians is really fun and tiring at the same time, as we train 3-4 times a week; Land, pool and lake drills. A lot of eating too with my team mates who are of course, crazily AWESOME!


KL Barbarians

Personal skills; I’ve also been trying to drill myself more in photography and editing but am always exhausted from my physical activities. Now I have the time to play around with my camera and stick my eye balls onto my laptop screen to explore photo editing even though I dislike the idea of staring at screens after work. Need to figure out how to take my sister’s engagement photos as well. Ah damn!

Relationship; I’m at the age where people around will start bombarding questions like “When are you getting married?” “Why are you still single?” My click of friends are all getting hitched. Our conversations evolved from home works, tuitions, co-curricular activities to career, relationships, bachelorette party and weddings. Oh how much we’ve all grown!

Am I socially or peer pressured? Well…not really. It may have crossed my mind but I’ve never really given it much thought. Instead, I embraced the perks of being single while I still am. I’ve been roaming like a free bird making new friends, doing new things that never would have thought of, being more adventurous in my bucket list and enjoying all the activities that I got myself into besides getting myself more injuries (this – NO FUN!).

I guess, finding love would be a great addition at this point. The fear of getting hurt and have courage to love again however, haunt me sometimes. You see, finding the right person isn’t easy, let alone finding love that reciprocates.

There’s no way you can force love anyway. Might as well, let the universe runs its course. Live your life with an open mind and heart. If things don’t work out for you, it simply means that something better is waiting for you, at least that’s what I’d like to believe. I supposed when the time is right, love finds you. When it does, be ready for it.


So to those who are still single, don’t fret! Go out, start living and have a little faith (trying to convince myself here too)! Some of us who are luckier, they’ve found each other in ways you could never have imagined. I’ll be featuring some of those real life love stories in one of my upcoming posts so stay tuned!

What’s up for 2017?

More like, what’s down for 2017?? My first achievement of 2017…goes all the way down south!!

Yeap, you heard me right. Most women are shy to talk about it and prolly find it gross and too private to talk about, but we’re all adults (I know I am, not sure if you are!) *Clear throat* *Whisper* I’ve successfully put in my first freaking tampon! *Bow left*Bow right* It’s in my bucket list and it felt as though I’ve earned myself a gold medal. No kidding! Most women are terrified of it, myself included. The thought of sticking something IN there (you know what I mean) is scary and disgustingly weird! Oh-kay…awkward moment. Now you go ahead and do that face palm gesture. 🙂 I actually did some research on how-to instructions by watching youtube videos, read a little on precaution measures and risks (yes, there are risks, so it’s not something to be taken lightly) before attempting it. Oh, what would I do without Google?

Anyway, besides being 2 freaking 8 this year, speaking of bucket list, I’ve added a couple of new things in my bucket & travel list, and I just couldn’t wait to execute them! To be honest, I have a relationship that didn’t work out a year ago to thank for. I started fully utilising my Google Calendar and fill them daily square boxes with things that I want to do, strike off a few things of my bucket list, meet new people, and went head on trying new things to take my mind of the heart break rather than getting into an emotional dive. Ever since, my life became much more happening, lively & exciting and I intend to keep it that way from then onwards until the day I turn into ashes. “Life is short and we only live once!” So, I don’t wanna be painting a few dull brush strokes on my canvas but one that is full of beautiful drawings with vibrant colours! So, have you guys come up with your goals and resolutions for this year yet? If you haven’t, do it!

On top of that, I also came up with a few new pages; Review & Portfolio. You’d probably be wondering why there’s a review page. Well, I have plans to get into review writing. Thought it’d might be something new to try doing this year. As for my work portfolio, I have a separate blog for that but in case I want to merge it with this blog sometime in the future, it’s readily accessible here. You can now access them at the main menu above! Feel free to browse around and drop me a comment if you like! 🙂

Hello 2017!

Waved goodbyeeee to 2016 and heeeelllllooooo 2017! Happy New Year everyone! Before I take a dive into my last four months of 2016, here’s my standard new year wish; May all of you be blessed with great health, happiness and an awesome 2017! It’s already a week since new year, can you believe it?! Time passes so fast and new year felt like yesterday. Next thing you know it’s gonna be 2020! I wonder what lies ahead for me this year? Hmm…whatever it is, I hope 2017 will be even more happening, surprising and interesting. This year, I decided to start the year by giving a little donation to children in need. It’s not much but I figured it’s a nice thing to do.

The last four months of my 2016 was pretty tiring yet happening. I’ve written about my 2/3 of my 2016 in my previous post. You can read it here in case you missed it. My 2016 was freaking awesome and hell I felt very much alive last year. Not that I was dead before that but, you get what I mean. I live!!

So, what was in it for me in the last 1/3 of 2016? Dancing? Definitely! I danced my way to Bangkok for my first Salsa Bangkok Festival in November for 4 days 3 nights with a couple of my salsa friends. It was quite a tiring trip as we were trying to juggle between attending the Salsa event, which took up about 6 hours of our day for 3 days consecutively and doing a little sight seeing. There were performances by people from all around the world, from 8.30pm to 10.30pm and social dancing after that until 2am. Yeap, zombie Honey danced and walked around the street of Bangkok for days yo! I experienced my first pool party too. Well, dancing in the pool…totally weird. Try doing a dip on a girl when you dance in the water. It was funny, but pool water is definitely not my drink of choice! Obviously, I’m speaking from experience. LOL!


The street of Bangkok, Thailand. Photo taken by @honeyhong with Sony A6000

Unfortunately, I didn’t manage to explore much of Bangkok, therefore I do have plans to go back there again to see more of Thailand; their culture, food (man I miss their Pad Thai and lime sauce steam fish!) and the shopping experience of course! Here are some of the photos I took from the trip : Bangkok, Thailand. Photos taken by @honeyhong


Pad Thai. Photo taken by @honeyhong with Sony A6000

However, amidst of all the fun, I received a shocking news that my grandpa had passed away while I was there. I returned to KL as scheduled and arrived home at midnight from Bangkok, had a couple hours of sleep, took the first morning flight back to Penang, and flew back to KL a few days after the funeral was over. Weekends before that and after, I’ve been making a lot of trips back to Penang to overlook some house renovation matter and it’s still ongoing. Sigh, can you see the big hole on my pocket now? Didn’t seem like the house is going to be ready by Chinese New Year.

Anyway, after all that crazy flying here and there (like I’m some millionaire’s wife!), I attended my first World Bachata Festival here in KL. I don’t take any Bachata lessons but I managed to pick some up from social dancing, so I figured I’d like to see what I can learn from there. I learned some cool Bachata sensual moves, made even more amazing new friends from all around the world, had a lot of crazy time with the salsa peeps here from KL and just kept on dancing!


Jim McCarthy and I dancing bachata during World Bachata Festival 2016

Came December; I hope you guys had a good time celebrating Christmas and New Year eve! My company had a Christmas party a week before and I managed to get two of my friends to attend, one of them which I hadn’t keep in touch with for a while, and they had a great time bonding with my colleagues. It was lovely to catch up a little bit.

I spent Christmas eve out dancing on my usual Saturday night. As for New Year eve, I decided to head to a bar restaurant for some pop dancing with Kim, my crazy gym bro who can shake… that… ass! Oh yeah, I think we rocked the dance floor alright. Well, the dancing were great but those annoying guys who were bothering us weren’t! All and all, I think I’ve shorten a little bit of my life span inhaling the smoke but it was an awesome way to usher the New Year! Woohooooo!!..Until I fell sick on the very first day of 2017, and I still sound like a frog with my stuffy nose.

On top of all the exhilarating dancing, my job, working out in the gym and meeting new people, I rekindled with some friends that I’ve lost touch for a while. Friends who I got to know during their business trip here to Malaysia; from Germany, UK, Austria and they all have plans to visit Malaysia soon, with their partners. Can’t wait to see them again after a long time!

Well, I guess that wrapped up one of the chapters in my life;  a good one indeed. I started a new job, made a lot of new friends, danced like it was the end of the world, spend a little more time with family and friends, got myself injured and recovering from it, went travelling, put on some weight 🙂 and then achieved my fitness goal, picked up 4 types of dances in 10 months… I’d say that’s some achievement. Everything seemed to fall into place in 2016, except for relationship. No luck in that one yet but it’s all good! I’m happy and content with everything I have right now. Here’s to another amazing new year. Can’t wait to fill up the jar with more interesting stories. Until then, have a great weekend guys! Cheers! 🙂



Many of us are afraid to love, committing into a relationship or marriage because the fear of getting their heart broken, of giving too much, of ending up with the wrong person in life over powered them. A heart break is a heart break, regardless of how many relationships we had. Each time, the light of hope and trust diminished and we came up with our very own protection mechanism.

But, how will you ever know if the person is the right one for you? Truth is, you never will. Nobody in this world will ever know a person deep down to the core but him or herself. I’ve been slammed on the face with a dramatic ugly truth of late, and I certainly do not know how I should feel about the matter and am yet to decide how to go through with it. Turned out, the person that I thought I’ve known for a long time is not exactly what I thought he/she is.

Love, relationship and marriage are not as simple as all the lyrics in a love song or as romantic as all the fairytales in a romance novel. They are as fragile as a glass. Small cracks on it might shatter it all; unexpected event that may not even seem possible when you are in that sweet little bubble of yours, regardless how long and stable a relationship or marriage is. Adulthood is complicated at times, and everything and anything is possible. That however, does not give us any room to judge because you can never put yourself in another person’s shoe until you go through the similar situation yourself.

There is no man in this world who knows what the future holds. The only thing we could take charge of, is to have hope and courage. One needs to decide whether or not he/she is worth taking the risk with, have courage and take a leap of faith to find happiness, true love, to love, to be loved and go through ups and downs together. It takes two to tango; a hard work of a lifetime to keep the glass intact regardless of the cracks; to sustain the love, passion, respect, tolerance and many other aspects in a relationship or marriage.

For a person who have only been in a failed relationship twice all my life, single, not married and the lack of years of life experiences may not put me as the best person to write and talk about this but I’ve been equally hurt like some of you out there who probably went through many more heart breaks than I did. However, with each relationship we went through, we gained memories worth telling and ponder in life be it sweet or sour, learned about ourselves better, knowing your self worth, what we want and deserve in life despite the heart ache that might be inevitable.

I’ve subconsciously allowed fear to take place in a tiny corner of my fragile little heart even though I appear to be my usual happy, confident and tough self most of the time, but gladly, I’ve also allowed time to perform it’s magic. I finally broke free from the chains that I’ve put on myself by leaving the fear, uncertainties, insecurities and expectations that I have in that tiny corner, embracing the fact that it will always be there in life and knowing that by keeping myself locked up for a long time, I will miss out all the beautiful things in life. Find your happy place because life is just too short.


Just like that, 2/3 of 2016 are gone. How time really flies! 2016 has been amazingly happening for me.

I go out more than I used to. That saying, money flow out more too! I had a dramatic yet fun start to the year. Soon after, I picked up Salsa dancing, on top of my usual workouts in the gym, and I’m totally hooked! I picked up Bachata as well from social dancing, and now challenging myself to learn Zouk-Lambada. 3 dances in 6 months! The best thing that comes with it is that I made more friends than I ever did in a short period of time and we all share the same passion and interest.

Throughout this 2/3 of 2016, my 9 months  and counting job has been good. I have fun and nice colleagues that make my 5 days at work non dreadful at all! I still find rooms to improve myself in what I do for a living.

Besides my repetitive routines, I travelled to two countries this year; Osaka & Kyoto, Japan for my first trip out overseas. I love, love, love and miss, miss, miss Japan! Months after, I had an opportunity to travel to Jakarta, Indonesia for work. Seeties Jakarta team gave us a very warm welcome and they are nice peeps! Upcoming one would be Bangkok, Thailand. Out of passion rush, I booked my flight ticket to attend Salsa Bangkok Fiesta, and weeks after that, World Bachata Festival. I feel crazy but who cares? I truly love it!

On top of all of that, I spent a lot of money for medical bills as well due to all the injuries I had but am glad that I am recovering from all of it. Hopefully, no more injuries.

Despite living in my happy little bubble, I’ve had my down moments where I questioned myself and felt lost. I met some people who really showed me how indecent one could be and how ugly truth can be. But I’m glad that I managed to pull myself up. Whatever it is, we just have to make sure that we don’t lose ourselves in the process.

All in all, as I ponder of late, I love how unpredictable  and interesting my life has been this year and I’m enjoying every bit of it as it comes at me. Look forward to finish the last 4 months of 2016 with better health, more joy & happiness!

Finding Dory

Decided to find Dory on my own today and it turned my rather blue Friday to a happy and grateful one. The movie Finding Dory is a great reminder of how life’s unpredictable and that’s why it’s beautiful. The ups and downs of it, and we just have to keep on swimming.

I’ve always thought to myself, that the one thing I never want for myself is memory loss; just like Little Dory, for not being able to remember my family and friends, all the sweet and bitter memories I had with them. I felt frustrated for that little blue animated fish!

So, random as it is, I just want to say that I cherish and love each and every one of you even though we might be close or not really; my family, friends, colleagues, gym buddies, salsa mates, everyone I befriended; I truly am grateful to have all of you, who really spiced up and bring joy to my life. Love you guys! ❤️

P/S : If you haven’t catch the movie, make sure you do!

3 Nights of Dancing

I’ve always loved dancing and music. I was first introduced to dancing during my Girl Guiding days back when I was 13 years old. I was an active girl guide for about 7 years and every year we had events and camping activities. There were dance competitions and performances during these events, and I had my parts in choreographing dances & learning them from my seniors as well when I first started high school. I’ve always looked forward to dance practices, besides our marching practices in the middle of the night, doing all the formations we have to do to nail the competitions. A couple of people asked if I’ve danced before this. Well, we were a bunch of non dancing professional teenagers who choreographed dances for school or camp performances, and the boyish me back then (still boyish now) have always been more inclined to hip hop-ish dance moves, still am.

When I started my new job last December, I was being introduced to salsa practically, not the sauce; the dance, by my current boss and I loved it! I remembered clearly when he first showed me some moves in one of our company outings, I was caught off guard and I screamed. He said “Honey, that’s so not sexy!” It was a total different genre that I’ve never tried before and I started seeing and enjoying the differences; the style, dancing on your own and dancing with someone else. My ex boss from my first company and some of my friends mentioned that they salsa, but it has never occurred to me to try it out until now.

In my previous post, I mentioned that I felt lost and I started doing things from my bucket list to find myself and this is one of it! I recently signed myself up for Salsa classes and had already completed my Beginner 1; 8 classes in 2 months and already started my Beginner 2 lessons. I am happy that I did, because dancing is something that I have passion about and I look forward to it every week besides spending my time working out in a gym and at home, which has already blended so deeply within me that it is my life now; in a good healthy way.

My first dancing shoes!

Believe it or not, I was never a going out partying at night person or much of a drinker and I know I don’t seem like one but those who know me, you know me. I enjoy dancing and music but I’ve never seen the point of spending my money on alcohol and going to smokey places with loud techno beats that I could not dance to. In fact, my first clubbing experience was on my 24th birthday at Zouk, KL with my ex-colleagues from Fireworks and it was so thoughtful of them to take me there and they surprised me with doughnuts as a birthday cake. However, that night assured me even more, that techno beats and smokey places are really not my kind of thing!

This week, I made an exception and decided to check out salsa nights in KL and went out 3 nights in a row. I gotta say, I feel old! 2 nights of lack of sleep, I had to take so many naps to recharge. *roll eyes*

The first Salsa club that I hit was Hugo’s by Modestos at Damansara Perdana on Friday Night with my gym bro Sam who learned salsa overseas, and dance mates from another slot, Sarah and Nadia. Both really lovely and fun ladies!

Salsa Night : Friday
I spent RM15 on two bottles of water and there are car park available for you that goes by hour. There used to be Salsa night on Friday at Paradox Cafe at Bandar Utama but they had just recently closed down.

Clockwise : With my gym bro Sam, dance mates Sarah and Nadia, our instructors Emily and Dom & my ex-boss Yanzer

The place was crowded and happening indeed. So, I went to the dance floor for my first dance and as I twirled, I saw a face so familiar sitting in the dark drinking a bottle of beer. I twirled again and confirmed that it was definitely my ex-boss, Yanzer who salsas too. Funny, because before I hit Hugo’s, I thought to myself and wondered if I will bump into him as I recalled that he salsas too. He danced well and I am really glad we danced. It was great to see him again, this time in a different environment. Then, I met Ian who really enjoyed dancing in a more freestyle manner and dancing with him allowed me to go freestyle too. Oh well, I elbowed his chin that night, by accident. I can still giggle to how we ladies agreed to how abusive we were on the dance floor.

That night I salsa-ed and bachata-ed until 2.30 a.m and it was crowded that I got stepped on & I stepped on others too. I realised that I have so so much to improve on in my salsa after that night. My next goal to learn Argentine Tango is definitely on hold until I master Salsa. On top of that, I learned about Kizomba, a type of dance that I’ve never seen or heard of.

I caught myself 4 hours of sleep and grabbed my long time high school, most-of-the-time missing desk mate Jacalyn, that I’ve known for 10 years and counting and I would say best friend, to spent the whole Saturday out with me; lunch, shopping, dinner and dancing. She has a stressful job and I figured she needed some time off to do something fun. I had her meeting up with my gym mates and dance mates for dancing at Friendscino and am really glad she had fun!


Friendscino @ Damansara Perdana
Address: LG01 & 01A, Plaza Emerald North, Jalan PJU8/3A, Damansara Perdana, 47820 Petaling Jaya, Selangor, Malaysia
Phone:+60 3-7710 0035
Salsa Night  : Saturday

What they have in store for you :

  1. RM18 for 2 drinks (choice of bottle water 500ml and/or soft drinks)
  2. RM28 for 2 drinks (1 pint of Tiger beer and a choice of bottle water 500ml or soft drink)

Free parking 🙂

Friendscino was less crowded, more space to dance and a bit more quiet but I like the idea because in a way, I could practice my dancing more. On top of that, the people who danced there were all very decent and nice. There were people my age and older who are willing to teach me and guided me as I danced with them on the dance floor, as they know that I was just a beginner. I did not sign up for Bachata lessons and I only know the basic counting, and yet they would teach me how when they led me on the dance floor, how my posture should be and etc. I met this man Arun, who taught me how to Kizomba and he was really nice to advise me on my salsa too.

I was so sleepy after 2 nights out and initially did not want to go all the way to Havana Bar and Grill at Changkat Bukit Bintang to check out their Salsa night which is on a Sunday. But knowing that I would never go out partying on a Sunday night as it will be a working day the next day, I decided to go and check it out for a short while with Sarah since it’s a holiday today. I did not bother dressing up like how every ladies would if they were to go out partying or bring my dancing shoes even. I just grabbed a top, denim shorts and put on my sneakers thinking that it would just be 2 hours of just checking out what Havana is like.


There were 3 different rooms in Havana. The room below is quieter for you to chill and catch up. As you adjourned to the room upstairs, there’s where the modern music is where you can dance too, and as you walked in further, that’s where the salsa room is which is small enough that I got stepped and banged on a few times.

Apart from meeting nice people, I also met this dude who was probably PMS-ing that night as he seemed real moody, sitting every where he could with his grumpy face. He asked if I Kizomba, and I said “No, but if you don’t mind teaching me I don’t mind trying”. Oh well, he tried and then I guess I sucked big time that he just stopped and said thank you and ditched me on the dance floor before the music finishes. Kizomba with Arun was so much better. First rejection on the dance floor, checked!

Salsa-ing at Havana isn’t that fun as it was so packed, so we adjourned to the 2nd room where the modern music is. So much for wanting to be a Cinderella and go home by 12am, we ended up dancing at until about 1.30 am. We were having so much fun dancing to Shakira’s Waka Waka being led by this African lady there on the dance floor, YMCA, Beyonce’s and so much more. We danced with a few middle age ladies who were out for ladies night and they were watching us for a long time. So finally, I grabbed one of them and thought her a few club moves. I was so glad I was on sneakers as I got stepped on by one of them with their really pointy heels! So I guess, we pretty much ditched salsa yesterday night.

27 years of my life, I’ve never spent so much time out partying at night, needless to say – 3 nights in a row. 3 years and counting working here in KL, I’ve never drive myself out all the way to Changkat Bukit Bintang to party or dance. So this week, I’ve done more than I usually do and I’m glad I decided to go out and explored it. I learned not only different type of dances, new places, people and their nightlife, but most importantly I discovered more about myself, and that’s for me to keep.

Soul Searching

Couple of weeks ago, I felt lost. I lost my sense of joy and happiness, not knowing what was the root cause of it. Probably due to the recent events that are happening around me; personal life included. But now I do, I guess deep down I always knew. In the midst of searching for the missing piece, things gets gradually clearer. I spent some time on my own, list down the things I want to do, meeting people, going places I want to visit and executed some of it. Now that I got back on track again, not only I discovered the root cause, I also gained clarity, peace, joy and new perspectives in life.

I was stressed up at work, stuck with the same problem that I tried my best to solve while competing with the time that obviously could never slow down, stop ticking, and turn back.

“Time and tide wait for no man” – Geoffrey Chaucer.

Being able to perform my best at work and prove myself in what I can do in my career, is something that not only I want to prove to others, but most importantly, to myself. After spending much time on it, I’m glad and relieved that I managed to solve it and gained new knowledge in the end. Learning is after all a life long process. 

On top of that, I was unhappy over things that I have no control off. Sometimes, you just wish you have the answers to how life is going to be for you. No matter how badly you want to find out what the future holds, no one in this world could ever give you a certain answer to that. And that leave us with only one option – Let our past be a lesson, live in the present and let tomorrow surprise you. I’ve always said that and understood it but to constantly remind yourself how beautiful life is, especially during the down times in life and live by it, is not easy.

During my soul searching moments, I’ve come to realise and reminded myself again that life is indeed short, and I should live in the present and be as happy as I can in life. I was speaking to a friend of mine, and she said that the universe has been good to me. I guess she is right. The universe has really been good to me; Life has been good to me. I was being blessed with a new job, new friends and new colleagues that came into my life. The sudden change of ambience that is filled with joyful events acted as a distraction for me, leaving me no room to ponder over sad matters, one of it was my peacefully-ended-relationship back in December. Hence, it’s no surprise at all that I had a speedy recovery from it. I moved on definitely and set sail to continue my own little adventure.

While I was losing hope and trust, I poured my attention to getting work done and that took the unnecessary thoughts off my head. I started executing items in my bucket list and spend some time on my own, letting no one stop me from doing things that I love. My clouded mind became clearer and I started noticing the signs (at least that is how I perceived it) that kept occurring repetitively. It really felt as though those messages were meant for me -“Timing is everything. If it’s meant to happen, it will, at the right time for the right reasons.” It occurred to me in the book I read, in a TV series I was watching and even verbally from friends. Suddenly, everything became clear to me and acceptance gave me the inner peace that I was searching for.

When the universe wants to make something happen, whether it be giving a young man lightning speed or putting two people together, it has a way of figuring those things out”  – Joe in The Flash TV Series

I’m proud that I am able to be tough, motivate myself and pull myself up instead of letting myself drown in my self-create pool of sadness, negativity and uncertainties. Nobody gets to dictate how I feel or put myself down, because only me, myself and I get to decide how I should be feeling. Sometimes, people even those who are close to you, judge you for what you did especially when you least expect them to be judgemental. But darling, they will never understand your situation truly by just imagining themselves being in your shoes, because they will never do until it happens to them.

Should you lost some things that are dear to you, be grateful that whatever it is that you had, it happened and the only thing you are able to do at this moment, is to embrace the sweet memories and experiences you’ve gained from it. Little did I know, I’m living an adventure,  a real life drama that could even make a great magazine article to read about in a women’s magazine! I did not even see it coming, at all! Life is indeed interesting, unpredictable and anything is possible, especially when you least expect it. Appreciate and live your life to the fullest, for we only live once and you will never know when it will be taken away from you.

“When you go through life
So sure of where you’re headin’
And you wind up lost
And it’s the best thing that could have happened
‘Cause sometimes when you lose your way
It’s really just as well
Because you find yourself
Yeah, that’s when you find yourself”

– Brad Paisley’s Find Yourself from Disney’s Cars.